Tuesday, March 18, 2008

A House of Helpers

Do you ever find yourself in a relationship where the roles should be reversed? I have a young lady that I am trying so hard to befriend. It feels like I'm the teenaged girl chasing after someone who has the life I'm aspiring toward. It's kind of odd. I'm not sure why I'm trying so hard either. I think it's because when I see someone in a rough spot in life, I feel the need to try to step up and take the situation on for them.... Please, let me go through your morning sickness and labor for you. Allow me to fight that battle with your challenging child.... As if I don't have enough in my own life to deal with. I think in this particular instance, I'm trying to rectify the situation. Even though it's not mine to correct and they are doing their best to handle things properly. I guess part of me is still somewhat in denial. I'm always very disappointed to watch a fellow sister in Christ fall. And yet how many times have I fallen, still fall or had close calls? Save for the grace of God, I'd be exactly where this sweet high school senior is now. So why am I so stunned? It does make me think about my past mistakes and pray that much harder for my kids.

Speaking of my kids...I bet you're all wondering how they are these days. Well, I think Joanna will be laying off the green beans for a while. I'm not positive they that are the culprits for her awful diaper rash that lasted for a while and is finally clearing up, but just in case, we'll steer clear of those. She is STILL refusing to roll from her back to her tummy. She is however, enjoying her newly found ability to army crawl and pull up on Mommy to try to stand. I think someone ought to teach her how to read because obviously, she is not aware of the text book way of doing things. I'm sure that is a Ferrill trait. :-) She is learning the meaning of the word, “No.” Her reaction to hearing Mommy say that to her is just heart breaking. I thought Isaiah could work me over. Man, she is gooood. Isaiah is still quite the charmer and daily tests his power over Mommy. His vocabulary is ever increasing, becoming clearer and he is learning how to become a comedian and story teller. He is also searching for more independence. Today the weather is beautiful. So the kids and I went for a walk. Daddy took the car to work and I forgot to request he leave the double stroller. We opted for the Snuggli and Isaiah's trike instead. He really does love his trike, but I think he's realized that Mommy is still the one steering it and he can't reach the pedals, so she is the one setting the pace too. Mommy with this much control? It shall not be endured. With little warning, he hops off the trike declaring, "I want to walk." I felt kind of silly pushing an empty trike, but I figured he was getting better exercise walking anyway. And at least he eventually offered me a ride. :-)

3 comments:

Paul said...

Isn't it interesting how God takes us through different situations in life and at the same time similar situations but from a different perspective. All for His glory and that we might in turn exhort our brethren (and sisteren) and train up our children.

Love,

Dad

mommyofmany said...

What's up with those kids? Exactly WHERE did they get that independent spirit and that strong will? *wink.*

Wishing you grace as you seek to balance things in life. May God grant you wisdom as you reach out to others and as you continue to be faithful within your own family.

Wish we were all closer.

Unknown said...

I totally understand where you are Jodi and often find myself in similar situations. It's hard to know how much to help or when and what kind of advice to give when it's asked for, all while trying not to sound like you have it all figured out...God knows (He really does) that I don't have it all figured out I'm just a little further down the path of life then the person asking for help. I think that you are doing the right thing by just staying on your knees, most often it's the only and best thing you can do. If you need an ear or a shoulder I'm here...miss you all tons!!

Much Love, Sarah